There is a massive difference between those two.
I value my alone time pretty much above all else, but saying that I am also a very social person who likes company and spending time with friends and family. I’ve gotten a lot better in saying “no” to things since I was diagnosed because after getting to know my episodes I realised that I really need to take a step back, often, in order to rest my mind. I’ve always been very outgoing which is a part of me I’m very happy with but I’m also very happy that I’m able to spend time at home and be content with it.
But does spending so much time alone mean I’m lonely? Absolute not! Everybody gets lonely sometimes, me too, but it’s very seldom. I like being alone! I moved away from home over ten years ago so I had to learn to be by myself early on. I love having people over, I love visiting others or meeting friends out, but I’m just as happy being alone. That’s why I rarely feel lonely because I’ve learned to enjoy my own company.
I realise that’s hard for a lot of people and it’s taken me years to get to this place! It’s all about being happy with who you are, comfortable in the decisions you make, and understand that loneliness doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with you being single, living alone or saying no to parties, dinners or anything. You do you and whatever feels best for you and I’m sure you’ll be happy spending the occasional Friday night at home in your PJ:s without FOMO.